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Well, I found out Friday that my daughter who lives with me needs surgery. Today her father turned her down flat on help with the co-pays and informed her that he will no longer carry her on his health insurance. So that means she will not be able to even get the surgery. I knew he was taking me off but I thought he would keep her till she finished college. So now I do not know what we are going to do. I am already having to suffer withdrawals from having to quit "cold turkey" on my own prescription medications because we do not have money to buy refills. Now she has to suffer because of him and his selfishness and this is not right. How do I get money for her fast? It drives me crazy - I cannot go to the doctor myself for my medications or even for my foot that I broke two weeks ago. I am willing to suffer because I know I have to now, but I will NOT let my daughter suffer - PLEASE someone help!

I seriously am in need of help. My husband walked out on me a year ago. He left me with the pets and college age daughter to take care of. I have filed for divorce and he has court orders to pay the house and utilities, plus keep my daughter and I on his health insurance. He has complied to most of this but has now let the house go into default and , according to his email to our son, plans to let it be foreclosed on because he is tired of making payments. Just for the record – he lives in a gated community paying over $1000/mo just for his rent and has all new furniture, appliances, and is going on vacations. He left me because, according to him, he could not stand the stress after I got cancer and he just wanted out. And yes he planned to just walk away and not help at all. I have spent 24 years raising our children and taking care of him. The only jobs I had were “supplemental” ones because I did not need to make a large salary. I never got the chance to go to college so I do not have an education or career to fall back on. I have been looking for a job since the day he left. The only position I found was a temp retail position which lasted only 6 months. I have been jobless for the past 5 months. Like I stated above, he is reluctantly paying utilities, but I am having to pay for food, clothing, home upkeep (which he left in HORRIBLE condition) care for the pets, medications among other things. And no, I do not have my hair done, buy makeup or any frills, nor do I buy clothes any place but the thrift store. I am having to rely on my elderly parents for food and gas money, but they are running out of money fast and I cannot do this to them. I am in immediate need of an income (or a small grant for short term help now). I look for a job non-stop, sending out no less than five resumes daily (actually sent out over 200 one day). I cannot pay for a service nor can I afford to drive around and randomly look. I have a background in customer service, bookkeeping, office support and teaching at private Christian schools. I do not have college, I have been out of work for years (working for a friend doing bookkeeping but that seems to not count), I am nearly 50 which seems to make a huge problem for me, I am overweight (from being sick) and I get looks when I walk into a nice office (you know the look), I have a terrible credit score because of my husband not paying bills and letting the house go into default, no one will believe I am reliable because of this.  To stay in this home (which is actually falling apart but all I have), keep a car, pay bills, insurance, etc, I need to make no less than $15/hr or around 30k to 40k a year. If I can get a job I can get my divorce and I can fix my credit and start completely over and be totally independent. Problem is I cannot find a job at all and I only get less than 1% return on answers from sending resumes, 98% of which are flat “no” you don’t qualify.  I do not know what to do anymore. I do not have money to go to the doctor or even get my prescriptions this month, which reminds me, he dropped me and our daughter on his health insurance also. (he had a court order not to change things but it seems he does not care). I really need help getting a job and for now just getting food and gas money. PLEASE there has to be someone out there who can hire me or knows of a job that fits what I need. I will do anything, I could even work in a “clean room” doing assembly work. As long as it is an honest and steady job that pays enough for me to make my bills I’ll take it. I have tried to get gov help but found that they are going by his income because we are married and he makes VERY good money so that disqualifies me. But to be honest, I do not want to depend on someone or the gov, I need to be independent and need a good job.

Please, someone help me, I am alone in all this and seriously do not know how to dig out of this hole he left me in. I think I covered it all, but if you have questions, please feel free to ask.

Thank you for reading this and THANK YOU in advance for any help you can give me.

About me? Well, I'm starting my life over again and it is scary. I'm doing the best with what very little I have been left with and working hard to be independent again.

I have two wonderful children. (the only good thing I got from my marriage) One is on his own and so brilliant working with a major computer company. And my youngest is going to college and working toward her own goals of becoming an entrepreneur. They have become amazing adults and I know there is more to come from them both. I'm very proud of them both!

I hate asking for help, but there comes a time when we all have to give in and let others do what they can for us. I'm afraid I'm at that point :( I hate the fact that I have to depend on my parents when it is time for me to be taking care of them. I hate the fact that I have to come on here and ask strangers to help me financially, but I am desperate - and grateful that this is here to help people like me who find we are at a dead end and need help out.

I had cancer a few years back, it put a stop on everything it seems. I am totally cancer free today :D and trying to get this body back into it's pre-cancer shape lol. My goal is to be completely healthy before I turn 50. It's hard when you dont have the money to buy good food and fill up on carbs to make it through the day. But someday it will all come together and I will be who I should be again.

I live in a small house that is totally falling down. My husband did not take care of the place, he hated doing any kind of work on the house, so now it's up to me to try to find the money to fix the things that have fallen apart. I like doing the work but hate doing it alone, I like to have someone by my side when I do remodel or repair work. And believe me there is a lot to be done here. It seems I am always trying to find money to fix something. I have a bathroom that is totally ruined - the floor is falling in cuz of his crappy plumbing job - so I just keep the door closed hoping some day I can get it fixed. (and yes I do have a 2nd bath)

I have cats and dogs. After the cancer everyone wanted to make me happy so I got puppies and kittens. I guess I needed that unconditional love since my husband had emotionally abandoned me at that time. I love each and everyone, but sometimes I find them totally exhausting. But they are my responsibility (and I love them) and I gladly take care of my responsibilities. 

I am desperately trying to get myself independent and get a job. I have found that being a mother and taking care of a home and family for 25 years does not count for much when you suddenly find yourself needing to be the sole support for that home and family. But I would not trade one second of it. I just wish that somehow I could transfer all this knowledge into a degree or an awesome paying job so I can be self supporting.

I hate to ask for money from people but I am at that point in my life where I need to. It makes me cry to think that I now depend on charity from others. I will get my life together and I will repay each and everyone who has helped me through this crisis I am going through. I was just thinking, cancer was not this hard lmao. I guess I felt I had no control over cancer and I cant stop thinking I should have more control over this.

I am just hoping that the kindness of strangers and perhaps the network of people on this blog will see that I am a good person, that I am reliable and intelligent and that I can do anything. Perhaps someone out there can not just help me through the financial problems I am having at the moment but help me get my independence back through an awesome paying job.

Thank you for reading this.

(is it obvious I love to talk? LOL)